Somehow many years ago, the Wild Boar and I settled into our lives and developed a division of labor of the household chores.
We did not talk about it, make a list or try out this arrangement first.
At some point, probably after kids, we fell into certain household roles.
I do the laundry, grocery shop, make dinner (and all other meals), handle kids bedtime and shower duties. I make the beds, help the kids with homework, dust and pay the bills.
The Wild Boar cleans up after all meals (when home), empties the dishwasher, takes out the garbage, does all yardwork, fixes everything the kids and I break, cleans the toilets, takes care of the pool, vacuums, keeps all four computers in running order and my favorite HE SEWS (he is a surgeon you know).
The best part?
If the dishwasher is full, one of us is not sitting around waiting for the other one to empty it. It’s his job. I can pile dirty dishes in the sink and take clean ones out the dishwasher without having any guilt. He will empty it when he feels like it or has time.
I can leave clothes in the dryer or let laundry pile up and he knows I am not waiting for him to do it. I will get to it when I can.
We never argue about household duties or let the trash fill up to see who will take it out.
It’s the perfect unspoken arrangement and I don’t even know how we got there. We just did.
After dinner I am able to get up from the table and do things I want/need to do because he will take care of the dishes, just as I shopped for and cooked the meal.
I love this arrangement.
Does this mean that I never do any of those chores? No. I fill in if need be and vice versa.
This works in our marriage.
Does anyone have a similar arrangement? What works for you?